this comic about whitney houston and abusive relationships is really great.
i’ve never been in an abusive relationship. i’ve never been hurt or insulted or abused by a partner- i’m lucky enough to have had good relationships with guys who respect and support me, and vice versa. so i don’t want it to seem like i’m trying to appropriate this or misinterpret it or whatever…
however, a few of the behaviors presented in this comic struck a chord with me, and reminded me of my own bad habits re: relationships—- mainly the part about “desire for redemption”, i.e. believing that if you are feeling hurt and want it to go away, you need the other person to make it go away for you. so instead of dealing with your own feelings yourself, you wait for the other person to come around and relieve you, or even demand it of them.
i know its something i do and i’ve been trying to work on it but i’ve never seen it articulated so clearly and simply before… there are a few times in my life when i’m reading or watching something and i know that i will remember something from it, and think about it for a long time. that’s the case with this comic. so read it, is what i’m trying to say!!!
